Forgiveness

Forgiveness isn’t about the person in question of your forgiveness. Forgiveness is for you. For ease of moving on. For peace and tranquility of mind.

Act as you would expect of someone else

Think about your own situation as though it were that of someone else. What advice would you give to someone in your shoes? Are you following it? Is it worth following? Why feel so bad for yourself if you wouldn't feel so bad for someone else? Why feel so proud of yourself if you wouldn’t …

I failed my qualifying exam

My exam was scheduled for twelve noon. I remember first stopping by my girlfriend’s apartment before then going to my windowless basement lab to run through the presentation one last time. I was unshaven and dressed like a typical PhD student: dirty sneakers, blue jeans and a wrinkled t-shirt. Ultimately, the effort I had put …

It’s what they don’t say

That consists of the details. And if it’s always in the details, then be sure to ask the right questions. Because in the end, it's about getting them to say what they didn't say.

You can avoid acknowledging your failure

Or you can stare it right in the face. In any case, choose the path of greatest resistance, because you’ll learn more that way.